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Monday, May 16, 2011

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I am in tears writing this. Married 9 years, but now I need to get a divorce-for my sanity. How do I go about doing that? And before any asks there is no hope. He took my wallet-how can I drive to work without a DL (I lost my SS card). We are flat broke-$30 in savings. Can I get full custody of my DD5 esp since he is on probation for a domestic violence charge? (He won't hurt me now-I still have my phone)...I don't know what to do...I can't talk to my family about it-or his. I just don't know how to do this. I make $1161 biweekly. Mortage is $832. Utlilties varies. he is going to fight me for DD5...

Oh and my mom and dad are coming tomorrow-how can I tell them that I failed at marriage (considering I failed at everything else).

Sorry if writing is disconjointed...I am in tears, I don't know what to do. I just need someone to talk (or type) to.

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Oh and my mom and dad are coming tomorrow-how can I tell them that I failed at marriage (considering I failed at everything else).

Sorry if writing is disconjointed...I am in tears, I don't know what to do. I just need someone to talk (or type) to.

Very sorry for what you are going through. First off, yes you can drive to work until you can get all this straightened out. There are days that I have mistakenly left my purse at home and didn't realize it until I got home later, stuff happens.

I'd say talk to the police if you can about the wallet, see if they can help you get it back.

Go into your bank and talk to them about the accounts to see what can happen there. Was it a joint account? Will you be able to stay at the house? If it was a joint account, and you are flat broke anyhow, I would take your name off the joint account for now just so he can't incur debt under your name. Open a new account in your name only and have your direct deposit (if you had that) switched over to the new account so you can pay your bills.

Call the DMV for information about your driver's license to find out how to get another one. You could do this over your lunch break.

I could list a ton of advice but I'll let others jump in as well before this posting becomes a novel. Hugs. You can do this, you can get through this.